Dating advice for women in their thirties
); actually putting yourself out there at events and activities where you're likely to meet people; tapping into your network of friends for set-ups; and so on."It's about taking action, in more ways than one," she says.Actively position yourself to meet like-minded guys who are likely looking for legit, long-term relationships.Steinberg says this might mean: getting online or taking online dating more seriously ( read those profiles!Maybe you'll take a slightly lesser position to be closer to family, or scale back on those 60-hour workweeks to devote more time to your relationship life."Carpenter says pick one or two categories or goals that you really want to devote yourself to, and put the majority of the emphasis there.Hold on to your phones or computer mouses because you're about to get a little tough love.
"Don't spend years, or even months, with guys who are clearly commitment-phobic, wish-washy or emotionally unavailable," says Steinberg.
"Doing so will help you create what you want to create in your life—instead of just passively waiting for him to find you."You've probably met your fair share of men who would qualify for your own personal What Was I Thinking? Maybe you took a risk on that guy with the emotional issues, or that supposedly-reformed player with a laundry list of ex-flames.
Don't beat yourself over those mistakes, says Steinberg.
Most of us are probably a bit romantic about potential partners in our 20s.
Maybe we'll meet a brooding, handsome stranger in a coffee shop, or some witty guy will approach us at the neighborhood bar one night.
In your 20s, you dated around, kissed a few frogs, partied with your girls, survived school and got a firm grip on your career (finally! The twenty-something decade is full of exploration and change—but then, you blow out 30 candles and something feels decidedly different."There's this really unique thing that happens in your thirties," says psychologist Kristen Carpenter, Ph D, Director of Women's Behavioral Health at Ohio State's Wexner Medical Center.