How to tell your kids you are dating after divorce
"I suspected that this man wasn't over his marriage, which made sense -- after all, he wasn't even divorced yet," she says.
• More personal information, such as why the marriage failed and the nature of your relationship with your ex, should be saved for a later date when the two of you are more comfortable with each other.
"Be honest with yourself first, then with potential partners," Hartman says. You've revealed your relationship status to your date, and he's not choking on his shrimp scampi.A Dutch study this year showed that reduces one's chances of having a new, successful relationship -- slightly more for women than for men. It's no wonder newly dating divorcees may be hesitant to mention the details."Many people hide these truths because they don't want to scare off a potential date, but hiding such information will make your date feel tricked," says Christie Hartman, a Denver psychologist and author of "Dating the Divorced Man: Sort Through the Baggage to Decide If He's Right for You." Here's how to reveal your previous marriage to your potential future spouse.As Hartman puts it, "Your date wants to know about you, not your former marriage." • Don't go into too much detail.Focus on what you learned and how it made you a better person.