First dates that extend past two hours are not my cuppa tea.I never “go for drinks” because bars make me so uncomfortable and are too loud and overstimulating.Over the past few years, I’ve had my fair share of good dates and bad dates.
I have friends who only went on one or two dates before meeting the love of their life. There’s nothing to say that going on a lot of dates will yield a boyfriend that going on as few dates as possible will yield singleness. And the truth is that dating when you’re a highly sensitive person and an introvert is a vastly different experience.I really dislike the advice that a first date should always be grabbing a drink at a bar or going for coffee.Honestly, if I’m going to get all worked up for a date, I prefer it to be dinner where there is a specific start and stop point.I can only handle one date per week, and I need at least a few days notice. It takes a lot out of me to prepare for that first date.First, there are the messages sent back and forth over a matter of days (or weeks, if I’m talking to someone who is particularly gun-shy), and that alone depletes some of my energy to make small talk and ask all those “initial questions”.