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Having an honest conversation with yourself about sex is just as important as discussing it with your partner, experts say."Every woman and man should know their boundaries before they start dating, and most of us don't," says Cheryl Mc Clary, Ph D, JD, professor of women's health at University of North Carolina-Asheville."Especially among older people who went through the sexual revolution, with maturity they realize there are emotional consequences for getting involved in a sexual relationship," says Allen, author of Celebrating Single and Getting Love Right: From Stalemate to Soulmate.According to the singles whom Allen has encountered, boomers generally play by far different dating rules than young, 20-something daters."Think about your sexual boundaries before you've had that first drink," Mc Clary advises.Once you've decided what you want out of a date, say experts, you should make it part of your regular dating rules to tell your partner."I say definitely use condoms, even if you're in a committed relationship," she adds.
"My advice is this: wait as long as you can," Allen says."I think figuring out when you’re ready is a matter of being really clear with where you are in the process.I found that a lot of guys I dated were ready to settle down really quickly, so I had to start making it clear on my online profile that I was just casually dating at first.I was, and then I went into dating with a different mindset.I met a guy who I really liked and have been with him since.
"If you just want a one-night stand, you owe it to your partner to tell them 'it's just sex I'm after,'" Mc Clary tells Web MD.