Spencer w kimball quotes on dating
If she has not cooperated and contributed to the foul deed, she is of course in a more favorable position.There is no condemnation where there is no voluntary participation.(For example, I think the “better to die” phrase is really saying that rape is akin to murder.) The next paragraph states, “while one may recover in large measure from sexual sins they are nevertheless heinous.” However, the problem with this quote is that in expounding on how great the damage is, the words lapse into victim-blaming.
Oaks, “Same-Gender Attraction,” , October 1995 “Applying the First Presidency's distinction to the question of same-sex relationships, we should distinguish between (1) homosexual (or lesbian) ‘thoughts and feelings' (which should be resisted and redirected), and (2) ‘homosexual behavior' (which is a serious sin). Still other feelings seem to be acquired from a complex interaction of ‘nature and nurture.' All of us have some feelings we did not choose, but the gospel of Jesus Christ teaches us that we still have the power to resist and reform our feelings (as needed) and to assure that they do not lead us to entertain inappropriate thoughts or to engage in sinful behavior.
By reading in context and assigning Elder Kimball the best intentions, I can explain and rationalize and in so doing show that there is something good in these statements.
However, the words are harsh, punishing, misleading, and dangerous.
Once given or taken or stolen it can never be regained.
Even in a forced contact such as rape or incest, the injured one is greatly outraged.
There is no amount of good intentions or rational interpretation that can solve that problem.